As I sit back and reflect on my journey as a trader, where I was and where I am today, I can clearly point out the things I didn’t get right at first. For instance, one of the fundamental lessons that I’ve learned and come to accept is that certainty in the market is an illusion.
The analyses, all they tell you is that something is more likely to happen. But more likely, doesn’t mean a sure thing.
Here’s an analogy that is often used: If I flip a coin that’s slightly more weighted on the tails side, I know how the outcome will shape up in the long-run. (overall it’ll land more on the tails side). But in the short-term, there will be a lot of noise – the coin will land on both heads and tails, often in streaks.
If you haven’t noticed, that’s precisely what trading is, and that’s why strategic money management is paramount! No matter how extraordinary your market edge is, if you place all your hopes and dreams on any individual trade and start betting the farm, at some point, you are going to be disappointed.
Now, this ‘not knowing how things will turn out in the short term’ has led many traders (even seasoned ones) to fear the term ‘prediction,’ or, ‘forecasting.’ My take on this is this: the moment you place a trade with a directional bias, you are, in effect, predicting/forecasting.
So it’s not predicting/forecasting that’s an issue. It’s our expectations that are not aligned with some basic probabilistic facts.
- The sun will rise tomorrow. This is not an absolute certainty. But based on what we know about science and the laws that govern this universe, this is a very (very) high probability. And so, having a high expectation that the sun will rise tomorrow wouldn’t be out of line.
- You won’t win the lottery in your lifetime. Your odds of winning the Mega Millions jackpot are 1 in more than 302 million. Having a high expectation that you will win it someday is just a very poor allocation of your brain resources.
- If you live in the U.S.A, you won’t die of Malaria. Again, basic probabilistic fact. Now, if you live in Africa, the likelihood of you contracting the disease goes up a bit. And the closer you live to the regions that are affected, the higher the possibility of you contracting it.
So you see, everything about our lives is a matter of probability — at the macro level, at the micro level — existence itself is a game of probability. And what plagues the typical trader is a poor understanding of his probabilities in trading.
We usually have high degrees of control in many areas of our lives – in the material world.
- You need something to eat? Just head to the grocery store.
- Inconvenient weather conditions? Cover yourself. Take an umbrella.
- Don’t like a particular tv program? Change the channel.
The problem arises when we expect the same in trading. We’re so used to controlling things in our daily lives with high degrees successes (because the probability of success is high) so, when we come in trading, we bring in that same kind of mindless expectation.
We place a trade, and then we expect a specific outcome. And we feel like we have to control the trade, tweak it, and constantly check it in order to make the outcome materialize as we would want it to be. But when it doesn’t happen, we feel bad; we have a hard time accepting it.
The thing with trading is that your probabilities of success in the short run will never be as high as they are in other areas of life. It’s just a fact. That’s why there is a lot of noise. (winners and losers come in streaks.) Chance plays a big role in this game. And it’s just something you have to learn to accept.
The true meaning of acceptance
Acceptance is the act of ‘being at peace with.’ It’s about embracing. Acceptance literally means ‘taking what is offered’. It doesn’t mean just gritting your teeth and bearing the outcome. No, it means fully opening yourself to your present reality—acknowledging how it is, right here and now, and letting go of any internal struggle.
But what if you want an outstanding trading performance and not just ‘accept it as it is’? Well, that’s the paradox: The more you accept the outcomes of your trades without resisting; the more you keep placing other trades irrespective of how your past trades made you feel, well, the more you’re letting the probabilities work their magic without interference. And the more your performance improves.
So if you can learn to understand, accept, and appreciate your probabilities, your actions will be far more effective since all the time and energy that you waste on struggling with thoughts and feelings will be invested in taking action—the right kind of action.